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BDSM Dating

Find The Ultimate Bondage & BDSM Dating Partner In Australia

You might be familiar with BDSM through E.L. James’ trilogy Fifty Shades of Grey. The infamous book and movie series opened up a wide range of BDSM activities-such as rope play, light bondage, and whipping- to a new, innocent audience. Although it left out a few realities, it did a pretty good job at showing that BDSM encompasses a wide range of sexual activities and it’s not all pain related, sadistic-masochistic behavior.

As adult dating specialists, we know from our experience on Bang Down Under that different relationships have different purposes. Assess your needs. Are you looking for sexual stability, a friend with whom you can do more than fuck, or just some fun at times?

For those who missed the early 2015 worldwide phenomenon, BDSM is an overlapping acronym for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism. The most popular types of BDSM practices include control, bondage, cock and ball torture, wax play, spanking, predicament bondage and Japanese bondage.

BDSM dating is for everyone, really. Most forms of bondage have two roles: a dominant and a submissive. Of course, one is not better than the other. Dominants need their submissive's strength just as much as submissives crave dominance. If you have no idea if you are a dom or a sub, you might want to take a personality quiz.

Research is the key when introducing yourself to bondage dating. Remember that BDSM is always consensual and safe. It also includes aspects of courtesy and privacy. There is actually a pre-negotiation period, where the partners discuss their likes and dislikes, and what is completely off-limits. Safewords are definitely a thing in the BDSM dating world so don’t be afraid to use them, especially if you don’t know your partner extremely well.

Can Your Bondage & BDSM Dating Fantasies be Fulfilled?

A 2009 study on two separate samples of male undergraduate students found that 62 to 65% entertained bondage fantasies, and 14 to 23% engaged in bondage behaviors. The rates are high among women as well, shows a 2014 study involving a mixed sample of college student and online volunteers. 10% of female samples rated the sadistic scenarios described in the questionnaire as being slightly arousing.

There is nothing wrong with people who are into bondage dating dating. In fact, practices of BDSM survive from some of the oldest textual records in the world. There are mentions of rituals "imbued with pain and ecstasy, bringing about initiation and journeys of altered states of consciousness; punishment, moaning, ecstasy, lament and song, participants exhausting themselves in weeping and grief." It wasn’t until the Victorian era that sadism and masochism were considered sexual disorders.

Instead of introducing your vanilla partner to kink, why not give it a go at bondage dating? Single or in an open relationship, there are plenty of ways to find play partners. BDSM dating websites and apps are the most common, as most people feel a lot safer and comfortable when talking on the Internet.

BangDownUnder.com is a great BDSM dating site, especially if you are located in Australia. It’s completely free but you have the possibility to upgrade your membership. Sign up now, your dominatrix is impatiently waiting for you.

Here is a little guide for those who are just starting out in the bondage dating world:


Step 1: Communication is a very important aspect in BDSM dating. Talk about your likes and dislikes, and what do you want to get out of this experience. Try not to judge your partner’s kinks, we are all different. Respect is the key here. Consider your partner’s feelings and what makes him/her feel good. Everything must be reciprocated, this is the foundation of BDSM dating.


Step 2: Try out new things. Everything must be pre-negotiated, though. Start out with SSC (safe, sane and consensual), then move on to RACK (risk-aware consensual kink) if you fancy it.


Step 3: Go slowly. BDSM dating is more than pain related and harsh sadistic-masochistic behavior. Build it up, don’t go full-blown sadistic in one take. Start with spanking or rope bondage. It’s important to check in during sex. Both parties involved must enjoy it.


Step 4: Compromise. Don’t force it on people, some people are as vanilla as it gets. In that case, you might want to revert to BDSM dating sites, where people share your kinks and fantasies