BDSM

noun

Acronym for Bondage, Discipline (or Domination), Sadism, and Masochism (as a type of sexual practice).

BDSM dating

For the kinkiest sex possible, you want to get involved in BDSM dating. Find out how right here.

While the definition of BDSM covers quite a lot of different kinds of play, finding your particular cravings is all about finding the right fuck buddy for you, so how exactly do you get involved in BDSM dating? Or, if you’re already well-versed, where do you find what you’re looking for?

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The best BDSM dating in Australia

We have it right here. Needless to say, those who stick only to the traditional dating scene can have a little trouble finding another open and willing to share those cravings with them. Bang Down Under makes it considerably easier for a lot of reasons. The thousands of users across Australia is one and, on this site, users are encouraged to be clear with exactly what they want. You’re not going to find the men and women here shy about saying whether or not whips and chains excite them. The ability to the perfect dom to fit your sub, or vice versa, makes BDSM dating all the easier.

Who is it for?

Bang Down Under is here to help anyone scratch just about any kind of BDSM itch. Whether you’re into bondage, power play, collaring, corsetry, master/slave, shibari, or something entirely different, this site is built to help you find whatever turns you on. Of course, many BDSM-lovers are ever looking for new experiences to push their boundaries, so we encourage everyone to keep an open mind while browsing profiles. You can find the match to your kinks, but just think of how many more potential playmates you can find if you’re willing to try something new from time to time.Did you know?

  • The name sadism comes from Marquis de Sade. This 19th century French libertine writer is perhaps most famous for the book The 120 Days of Sodom. Readers beware, as even the hardest of kinksters can find his works challenging. For his trouble, de Sade spent the last years of his life in prisons and mental asylums.
  • BDSM can actually be good for you. Psychological studies have shown that people who practice it have less trouble with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and actually have lower levels of deep-rooted psychological sadism and masochism.
  • Everyone’s doing it. BDSM is becoming much more widespread. A few decades ago, surveys would note that only around 10% of people were interested in or could remember a BDSM experience in their life. Today? 85% of all Australians in one survey were engaged in some kind of BDSM. The lighter kinks were the most common, but it goes to show that we’re developing a much more open mind.

A quick history of BDSM

Kink has always been a part of human culture. Of course so has shame, which meant that until fairly recently, BDSM was undefined and lurked beneath most publicly acceptable sexual discourse. Just as Marquis de Sade contributed to the ‘S’ of ‘BDSM’, the ‘M’ came from another erotic writer, Leopold von Sacher-Masoch. However, they were far from the earliest kinksters: Caesar Augustus tried to apply morality laws that would stop promiscuity in the ancient streets of Rome, even though everyone and their mother knew both he and his daughter had a variety of sordid affairs.

Shibari, one of the first known kinds of ‘formal’ BDSM play found its way into the earliest form of smutty entertainment around the Edo Period of Japan in the 17th century. In the West, it took longer and 1991 saw the use of the term ‘BDSM’ popularised. One of the earliest found recordings is on old internet forum terms, showing that people into the scene already knew what it was. Of course, now it’s much more widely known, in part thanks to E.L James’ 2011 release of Fifty Shades of Grey, which has helped thousands upon thousands of housewives explore their own hidden kinky sides.

BDSM Dating Do’s and Don’ts

We encourage everyone to be open about what they want and have fun looking for fitting partners. However, with great kink comes great responsibility, so here are a few tips to help you keep things on the side of fun.

Do:

  • Be open and clear. Communicate what you want before the play begins to make sure you’re a match.
  • Experiment.BDSM is all about trying new thrills. If you’re willing to be open-minded, you’re likely to find more partners, too.
  • Have a safe word or gesture. Agreeing one of these beforehand is the easiest way to slow and stop things so you can keep the play fun.
  • Know your boundaries. Experimentation doesn’t mean you have to try everything that makes you uncomfortable. Make your boundaries clear from the outset and you’ll have a better time.

Don’t:

  • Do actual harm. It’s very rare but some practitioners need to be told not to blend the line of fantasy and reality. BDSM is not a place for those who want to do harm.
  • Do anything you don’t want to. Consent is crucial. If someone shows disregard for your safe words or repeatedly tries to get you to break your hard boundaries, they are not worth playing with.
  • Forget about aftercare. Unless you’re practising a 24/7 master-slave relationship or the like, the veil of the play has to slip at some time. Show a little tenderness and compassion and ask your partner how they found the play.

How to make a Bang Down Under profile for BDSM dating

You’re going to find the most success if you’re specific about how you build your profile. BDSM lovers want to find those cut from the same cloth. Here are a few ways to make your profile attract the right kind of people.

  • Include photos that show what you’re into. You don’t have to go all-out making a display of yourself, but a flash of a ball gag, collar, cuffs, or whip can do a lot to excite the imagination of potential playmates.
  • Make your identity clear. Are you a sub or a dom? A master, a slave, a pet, or anything else? Talk about some of your kinks upfront.
  • Be open.Make sure to be upfront about whether you’re already in a relationship or not and whether your partner is as open to your ‘extra-curricular’ play.
  • Don’t keep it all to sex. A lot of people into BDSM want to know that they can get along with their partners outside of the fun. Talk about your passions and interests, too.

You don’t have to make your profile one purely built for BDSM, either. If you’re open to other kinds of dating, relationships, and kinks, you don’t have to limit your profile. Include as much as you like.

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